How do I handle a family member who uses faith against me?

I hear something tender and painful beneath your question: faith, which should be a source of comfort, has become a weapon turned against you. That wound cuts deep, because it comes wrapped in the name of something holy. Let me sit with you in that for a moment before we move forward. First, know this: when someone uses scripture to shame, control, or condemn you, they are doing what Jesus himself refused to do. He rebuked those who "bind heavy burdens and grievous to be borne, and lay them on men's shoulders" while offering no mercy (Matthew 23:4, KJV). The Father Jesus revealed is Love, not a hammer to be swung at the vulnerable. So the first thing to release is the false idea that God stands behind their harshness. He does not. Notice, too, how Jesus answered those who came at him with weaponized scripture: he did not match their heat, but returned again and again to the heart of the law, which is love. "Blessed are the peacemakers" (Matthew 5:9, KJV), and yet peacemaking is not the same as surrender. You are permitted to set a boundary; even Jesus withdrew from crowds and walked away from arguments that bore no fruit (Luke 4:29-30, KJV). There is deep wisdom in refusing to defend yourself endlessly. "Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine" (Matthew 7:6, KJV) is not an insult to your family member, but a recognition that some conversations only trample what is precious. You need not win the argument to remain whole. Remember who you truly are, beneath their accusations: you are the image and likeness of God, unfallen and beloved, and no human verdict can revoke that. "The kingdom of God is within you" (Luke 17:21, KJV), which means the truth of your worth is not up for negotiation at anyone's table. When you can, meet them with compassion rather than counter-attack, for often the one who wields faith as a weapon is themselves afraid. "Love your enemies, and pray for them which despitefully use you" (Matthew 5:44, KJV), not to excuse the harm, but to keep your own heart free of the poison. And when love requires distance, take the distance; protecting your peace is not a betrayal of faith but an honoring of the God who dwells within you.